Comments on: Last Resort Children http://www.cobaltdragon.com/index.php/2007/09/07/last-resort-children/ This blog is a record of my adoption journey and small slice of my and my son's day-to-day life. Wed, 21 Jul 2010 11:45:14 -0700 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Stacey http://www.cobaltdragon.com/index.php/2007/09/07/last-resort-children/comment-page-1/#comment-39 Stacey Wed, 19 Sep 2007 21:57:14 +0000 http://www.cobaltdragon.com/?p=113#comment-39 I am an adopted child. My parents tried to have a child for 5 years and after losing a baby, decided to adopt. My birth mother turned around after I was born and decided to keep me. It only lasted for 2 weeks, and she realized she couldn't do it herself and off to my parents I went. When I hear my mom talk about that, I know that she thought of me as her child before I was ever born. She is not an emotional woman, but when she has spoken (rarely) about this, she tears up and I can hear in her voice the pain she felt when that happened. I think that she and my dad had a feeling of "last resort" when they went with adoption, but I know that I am their child and loved no differently than my little sister (who is their bio "suprise"). I am an adopted child. My parents tried to have a child for 5 years and after losing a baby, decided to adopt. My birth mother turned around after I was born and decided to keep me. It only lasted for 2 weeks, and she realized she couldn’t do it herself and off to my parents I went.

When I hear my mom talk about that, I know that she thought of me as her child before I was ever born. She is not an emotional woman, but when she has spoken (rarely) about this, she tears up and I can hear in her voice the pain she felt when that happened.

I think that she and my dad had a feeling of “last resort” when they went with adoption, but I know that I am their child and loved no differently than my little sister (who is their bio “suprise”).

]]> By: Jen http://www.cobaltdragon.com/index.php/2007/09/07/last-resort-children/comment-page-1/#comment-18 Jen Sun, 09 Sep 2007 12:22:54 +0000 http://www.cobaltdragon.com/?p=113#comment-18 Hear, hear! IMO, views such as the ones you mentioned are just one step below "we felt called to save a child from a third world country." Hear, hear! IMO, views such as the ones you mentioned are just one step below “we felt called to save a child from a third world country.”

]]> By: Jennifer http://www.cobaltdragon.com/index.php/2007/09/07/last-resort-children/comment-page-1/#comment-17 Jennifer Sat, 08 Sep 2007 14:48:35 +0000 http://www.cobaltdragon.com/?p=113#comment-17 My fertility issue is having no partner. But instead of choosing articifial insemination - I chose adoption. So adoption really is my first choice! I just wish the process were going a little smoother. I know that others (in the adoption and pregnancy world) have problems and delays as well though - so I wait patiently. My fertility issue is having no partner. But instead of choosing articifial insemination – I chose adoption. So adoption really is my first choice! I just wish the process were going a little smoother. I know that others (in the adoption and pregnancy world) have problems and delays as well though – so I wait patiently.

]]> By: Sarah http://www.cobaltdragon.com/index.php/2007/09/07/last-resort-children/comment-page-1/#comment-16 Sarah Sat, 08 Sep 2007 01:55:19 +0000 http://www.cobaltdragon.com/?p=113#comment-16 To offset some of that negativity (which is really sad and alarming for the reasons you pointed out...reasons that I *hope* a good social worker would sniff out and address), I am proud to be among those who are preferential adoptive parents. We chose adoption as our *first choice* in forming our family after undiagnosed fertility issues. To offset some of that negativity (which is really sad and alarming for the reasons you pointed out…reasons that I *hope* a good social worker would sniff out and address), I am proud to be among those who are preferential adoptive parents. We chose adoption as our *first choice* in forming our family after undiagnosed fertility issues.

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